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Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.
Proverbs 13:24, ESV
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What this means, and why it matters to a father

This is one of the most misread verses in Proverbs — and one of the most honest. The 'rod' in ancient Israel was not primarily a tool of punishment. It was the shepherd's rod: used to guide, to correct a wandering sheep, to prevent the animal from going somewhere dangerous.

There is more to this one. The full context — the events behind the words, what the author was living through, and how it applies to the specific situations of fatherhood — is in the app under Deeper Understanding.

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