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At fifteen my heart was set on learning; at thirty I stood firm; at forty I had no more doubts; at fifty I knew the will of heaven; at sixty my ear was obedient; at seventy I could follow my heart's desire without overstepping the boundaries of what was right.
The Analects, Book II, Chapter 4
Translated by James Legge · Literature and scripture
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This autobiographical reflection from Confucius is one of the most honest accounts of moral development in any philosophical tradition. He is describing a lifetime of formation — the stages of becoming a person who does not have to fight himself to do what is right, because his desires have finally aligned with wisdom.

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