“We feed children in order that they may soon be able to feed themselves; we teach them in order that they may soon not need our teaching. Thus a heavy task is laid upon this Gift-love. It must work towards its own abdication. We must aim at making ourselves superfluous.”
Lewis published The Four Loves in 1960, the same year he married Joy Davidman — love arriving late in his life and at great cost. The chapter on Affection examines the gift-love that moves a parent to work not for their own benefit but for the day their child will no longer need them.
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